"Should I give my younger sister-in-law, who has been studying for the civil service exam for 10 years, an allowance?"

After both parents passed away, a woman expressed her concerns about her husband wanting to give his economically dependent sister-in-law a monthly allowance of 700,000 won.

On the 1st, an online community post titled "I had a big fight with my husband over supporting my sister-in-law. Can someone please give me some advice?" appeared on Natepan.

The author, A, started the post by saying, "I have an unmarried sister-in-law who has been preparing for the civil service exam for 10 years, and her support was provided by my in-laws, who recently passed away."

She continued, "The reason why her sister-in-law has been studying for 10 years is that she doesn't work hard (studying) but enjoys traveling and buying clothes instead."

The issue is that her husband wants to help his sister-in-law by providing her with 700,000 won each month.

A’s husband stated, "Both of our parents have passed away, and I can't just ignore her situation. I want to give about 700,000 won per month. I will only help for two years. If she doesn’t pass the civil service exam by then, she will have to fend for herself," trying to persuade A.

In response, A said, "She should study while working part-time. If she hasn’t passed in 10 years, what makes you think she will pass in the next two years? Why should we spend 17 million won on her?" She questioned, "Can you not see her posting travel pictures and pictures of new clothes on Instagram?"

However, her husband replied, "It’s not nice to hear you speak ill of your sister-in-law," and added, "I gave our father 300,000 won monthly for 10 years. That adds up to 36 million won. We never gave anything to our parents," asking A if she could not understand his desire to support his sister.

A took a strong stance: "How can you compare someone who worked for over 30 years and had to stop due to health issues (my father) with a sister-in-law who has done nothing but lounge around for 10 years without even working part-time?"

She elaborated that after her father-in-law's funeral, her sister-in-law appealed for financial support, and A had given her 3 million won from the condolence money. Yet, a month later, the sister-in-law went on a trip to Japan with friends.

After hearing this story, netizens reacted with various opinions: "She’s been a civil service exam taker for 10 years because she has money coming from home," "Is she on the same level as our parents who raised and nurtured us while she has been playing around for 10 years?" "You can't expect to support her for 2 years after 10 years of support for her own family; that’s not consistent," and "Your husband is a saint."

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